Whether it’s a casual hookup, a serious relationship or your first time, some people may lack confidence in their relationships regardless of their sexual nature. For those who need some guidance on how to be more confident in themselves or with their partner and have an overall healthier relationship, here are some things to consider:
1. Feel comfortable with your body!
Have confidence in yourself and in your body, and you will radiate attractiveness! Both women and men can have similar body confidence issues. For guys, one common concern is that they are not endowed enough. Guys, it’s not the size that matters; it’s how you use it! Your sexual ability does not depend on your size. For girls, a common concern is that their bodies are not adequate or satisfactory for the tastes of their partner. Be confident in your own beauty; your partner doesn’t want to be with you because you are the ideal woman. They want to be with you because you are YOU.
2. Make sure you have consent!
This is important for every new act: kissing, groping, stripping, sex, etc. Make sure your partner wants it to happen and is excited about it! Consent can be SEXY! It’s as easy as asking them what they want, and even if it is mid-kiss, it can still be seductive.
3. Tell them what you want.
You want to make their experience great, right? They want to do the same for you! Tell them what you want, and if they are comfortable doing it, both of you can enjoy yourselves. The more both of you enjoy what you are doing together, the better the experience is for both of you.
4. Don’t worry about the Ultimate Goal.
Every date doesn’t have to end with a kiss; every kiss doesn’t have to lead to stripping off clothes. Being naked doesn’t mean you have to start foreplay; foreplay doesn’t mean you have to have sex. Sex doesn’t mean both or either partners have to orgasm! Relationships, sexual or not, do not have to impose some kind of responsibility on either partner by taking a new step.
Both partners should concentrate on making each other’s experience what he or she wants it to be while being respectful of limits.
